• A less resolute new year

    Posted on December 31st, 2009 Saver Queen 5 comments

    This holiday season, I’ve received a number of good wishes from some very kind supporters, who have sent their hopes that this year will be better than the last. And while I treasure every kind word, I have no hopes for the new year ahead.  It’s not that I’m hopeless, that is to say, I am not despairing. It’s more of an acceptance, an openness towards life and the unknown.  My readers who have been with me for more than a year will know that I had big plans for this year.  I thought I was making decisions that were going to bring positive changes to my life.  I thought that I was being proactive in seeking out my own happiness.  And I was.  But the truth is, we really don’t know what will bring us happiness and what will bring us pain.

    In “When things fall apart” (which is, by the way, a great book, regardless if you are going through a tragedy or not), Pema Chodren wrote:

    When we think that something is going to bring us pleasure, we don’t know what’s really going to happen.  When we think something is going to give us misery, we don’t know.  Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all.  We try to do what we think is going to help.  But we don’t know.  We never know if we’re going to fall flat or sit up tall.  When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story.  It may be just the beginning of a great adventure.

    Whatever happens this year, this we can guarantee: some things will happen that we will define as painful and bad. Other things we will define as joyful and good.  Life will unfold, opportunities will arise, we will make choices.  Few will yield exactly what we expect.

    So I’m not really wishing for a happier year ahead.  I’m not wishing to do better, or be better, or for very much at all.  I’m simply wishing just to be.

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    5 responses to “A less resolute new year”

    1. Tracey December 31st, 2009 at 18:29

      Great post and such a wise excerpt. A blessed, prosperous peace filled year to you my kind friend. Warmly, Tracey

    2. Amber January 1st, 2010 at 00:34

      You’re very wise. And I’m hoping for good things for you, even though I know that there’s no predicting that. Happy New Year, Saver Queen!

    3. Catherine January 1st, 2010 at 10:58

      Happy New Year SQ! And I mean that from the bottom of my heart. I hope your glass is half full…always. And, on those days that it is half empty…I and your other friends are here for you. You are a strong, independent woman with a good head on your shoulders. Whatever life throws at you…you will be just fine.
      Be well and happy dear friend!

    4. Nancy January 3rd, 2010 at 12:23

      Such a wise post. We spend so much time focussing on our goals and dreams, wishes and want. It’s the human condition to some degree. But when we settle in to a place of “being” and accepting wherever we are at the present moment (and giving thanks for that) it is the ultimate place of peace.

      Moment to moment, everything changes. My wish for myself is to be aware of more of these moments, settle into them and be grateful, no matter what. And I wish you all the best in your self discovery journey too.

      Thank you for all the insightful, creative, introspective posts throughout 2009. What a gift you’ve given us all!
      Happy New Year SQ!! The adventure continues…

    5. Saver Queen January 9th, 2010 at 12:40

      Thank you, thank you, thank you for all the incredibly thoughtful and kind comments you have left here. From the bottom of my heart, I thank you. Your supportive words mean the world to me.

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