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An end, and a beginning

Posted on June 29th, 2009 Saver Queen 28 comments

As I sit down to write this, I have already begun a new chapter in my life. My relationship has ended. My partner has just left, now for good, to a place of his own. It is a split that is mutual, extremely amicable, and immensely difficult. We both love and care for each other very much, and yet we believe that is right to part ways and explore different paths.

When the decision was first made, I considered closing down the blog. This blog has documented my efforts to create a frugal, green household and most of the things I did were for us, and often facilitated by my partner, as my best friend by my side. In fact, he was the reason I began the blog in the first place, thanks to his encouragement and technical support. After some thought, and the suggestions from reader Catherine, I realize that a lot of the things that gave me comfort will continue to provide me with joy and stability in this new chapter of my life. I think I will especially use the blog to document my search for frugal luxuries, simple pleasures, and a quest to find peace, joy and abundance, beyond a consumerist lifestyle.

I truly want to thank all my readers for their support. You are really the best. This is an incredibly difficult time, but I’m finding reserves of strength and inner calm that I didn’t even know existed, and that I think have developed quietly and unknowingly during my practice of meditation, yoga and solitude.

I will be traveling nearly 3 weeks out of the month of July, which is interspersed with about a million other commitments in-between trips. So you may see a few sporadic posts in July, and then a return to regular blogging in August.

I do apologize for the fact that some close friends will find out about this through such an impersonal format, but the challenging nature of the time has actually made me want to retreat inwards for a little while.

I’m fighting the urge to wax poetic on the beautiful moments we shared, how we fell in love, and how knowing him has changed me in so many ways. But I will keep this to myself for now. Instead, I just want to remind everyone to enjoy and appreciate, as best you can, the bounty you have around you, because you never know when things might change to become just a memory. Each moment is all we have. Let’s be mindful and grateful. I am incredibly grateful to have had the years I did with someone so inspiring, so unique, loving, and passionate. Thank you, Josh, for everything you have given to me. I wish you all the blessings this beautiful life has to offer.

What is that feeling when you’re driving away from people and they recede on the plain till you see their specks dispersing? – it’s the too-huge world vaulting us, and it’s good-bye. But we lean forward to the next crazy venture beneath the skies.”

-Jack Kerouac, On the Road

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28 responses to “An end, and a beginning”
1. Amber June 29th, 2009 at 02:15
  
  I’m glad you’re not shutting down the blog. I’ll be thinking of you, and sending good thoughts your way. I hope that your new beginning brings you great things.
2. Bee @ Contently June 29th, 2009 at 02:28
  
  Thinking of you….
3. anostrichnamedsam June 29th, 2009 at 05:21
  
  SQ, I hope your new path is the best one yet!
4. Diana F June 29th, 2009 at 08:23
  
  I’m so sorry, I’ve been checking every day to see if you’d posted more and kept my good thoughts heading your way.
  
  I’m glad your keeping your blog. Know that you have continued support from me, and all your readers.
  
  Diana
5. FrugalChick June 29th, 2009 at 08:25
  
  I’m so sorro you’re going through such a difficult time. But I am glad you’re keeping the blog alive–it’s such a pleasure to read. Good luck during this difficult time.
6. Frugal Dreamer June 29th, 2009 at 08:51
  
  I am sure this new chapter in your life will have blessings beyond belief. And you’re absolutely right - each moment is all we have! Hang in there SQ!
7. Tracey McBride June 29th, 2009 at 10:47
  
  My best thoughts are being sent to you for a peaceful transition from one life phase to another. Looking back, I’ve found that almost all endings in my life (however painful)led to my becoming a much fuller, more aware, happier being. I see the same and more for you.
  Warmly,
  Tracey xox
  
  P.S. I agree with Catherine…you deserve to now do and enjoy the little pleasures and luxury for you!!
8. Ginger June 29th, 2009 at 10:49
  
  I’m glad to know that you’re going to keep writing–not just for our benefit but for YOURS, too.
  
  Blogging can help you keep your sanity, expand your mind and find satisfaction in this crazy world of ours. It’s quite therapeutic!
  
  I am sad that your relationship has ended but I’m also happy that you have acknowledged it as a new beginning for yourself. That’s a great way to look at things, and the right way!
  
  Have a fantastic July and I’ll keep my eyes peeled for your August posts!
9. Erran June 29th, 2009 at 11:34
  
  Well, we’re happy to hear from you and to gain an understanding of the challenge you’re going through. We send you extra warm positive thoughts, and know that we appreciate you for the great person you are. It’s ok to hibernate from others for a little while to gain your footing. Just try to avoid making it a long-term habit (I had done that and it may not have been wise - everyone is different). I’m sure there’s some great walking spots in that small-ish town of yours.
  
  And remember that while you have a particular direction when it comes to blogging, it may be a good source to release your thoughts into the ether, much like Gail does from time to time (those are my favourite). You can count on us as your loyal readers for support. *hugs*
10. ter June 29th, 2009 at 12:01
  
  I understand how you struggle to continue when you should be writing about 2 but are not. I understand that fully. My family of 3 has now become a family of one after my daughter and my husband both passed away. I struggle every day to do things that I am supposed to be doing for 3 - making meals - grocery shopping - even laundry.
  
  I realize our circumstances are different but you are still learning a new normal and I hope you won’t give up your blog, I only found you recently, but there’s not alot of Canadian blogs like this one. Plus, I have found that it is therapeutic to blog.
11. psychsarah June 29th, 2009 at 12:27
  
  Like others, I’m glad to see you resurface, and sending many hugs and positive thoughts your way. The words you’ve chosen to express what you’ve been experiencing feel quite peaceful, so hopefully that reflects how you feel more often than not.
12. Brenda June 29th, 2009 at 13:10
  
  I’m also sending you positive thoughts. This will be a tough time for you and you will wonder how you will get through it, but take small steps, and you will find that this too shall pass. I’m glad you are keeping the blog as I enjoy reading it. Give yourself as much time as you need - your friends will be here when you are ready. Hugs to you.
13. Catherine June 29th, 2009 at 13:38
  
  SQ~ Baby steps, breathing in and out slowly, one moment at a time. Use your sabbatical to put your grief into perspective. Only you can do this…and when you are ready to come back to us here…we’ll be waiting with open arms.
  Until then, I’m sending you cyber hugs and postive vibes. Take care dear girl!
14. Andrea June 29th, 2009 at 18:22
  
  Stay strong, SQ. Thank you for not shutting down the blog. You are now redefining your life but your life is not over.
  In your journey, you are helping ours.
  Thank you for all your insight, SQ.
  : )……..nothing wrong with hiding in the bathtub. Take all the time you need. This time next year or maybe sooner, will give you the hindsight to see why this is happening.
  ~Blessings to you!
15. Michelle June 29th, 2009 at 21:41
  
  I don’t have to know you and don’t have to live next to you to say keep your faith in the Lord and he will see you through. Aren’t we blessed to know a savior who WILL take care of us. He didn’t put you on this earth to leave you. I will pray for you and just remember that “Everything is going to be alright!”
  God Bless You!
16. PamelaMac June 30th, 2009 at 14:53
  
  I”m sorry to hear of your ending relationship - where one door closes another opens. Work through your feelings in whatever avenue you need, and know that what is sad now, will become fond and happy memory in time.
  
  Head high (though it can hurt) Smile on (even if you have to fake it) and forward steps (even though you will want to run back) Time will heal, clarify, and brighten all things.
  
  I”m glad you will keep blogging though - I could really use the read on the more frugal points in life. And don’t forget you always have us. =)
17. Christine June 30th, 2009 at 15:57
  
  I am sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult time.I wish you all the strength and necessary solitude you need to heal. And I am glad you are keeping your blog. I enjoy reading it.
18. Squawkfox June 30th, 2009 at 16:28
  
  Blog for yourself. Blog for the connections you share. Blog because you love blogging. You are loved.
19. AutumnRose June 30th, 2009 at 17:51
  
  Be safe & well, and enjoy your travels during July….we’ll be waiting to hear all about them when you get back
20. Saver Queen June 30th, 2009 at 23:37
  
  Thank you, thank you, thank you, to all my incredibly supportive readers. It really touches me to have so many people - most whom I’ve never even met - wish me well and show so much care and concern towards me. Each and every one of you has such a great big heart. I feel like I have a wonderful community here with me. This is the single best part of blogging. I look forward to future discussions on the blog with all of you. Thank you again for being apart of saver queen and for your continued support.
21. Melaniesd July 1st, 2009 at 10:55
  
  Saver Queen, I have enjoyed your blog and what you share with us so much. I’m happy to hear you will continue with your blog.
  It’s never easy to see and end to a relationship and I hope you find a productive way to help you cope with this transition in your life. Just because the relationship is over doesn’t mean it wasn’t valuable or time well spent. Reflect on the good and focus on a wonderful, bright future! You are young and beautiful. You have so much to offer and so much to give!
  *sending you good vibes & energy and peaceful prayers*
  I’m looking forward to reading about this next chapter in your life.
  
  *HUGS* Melanie
22. Haidee July 2nd, 2009 at 12:49
  
  I wish you all the best of a new beginning. Ending a relationship is never easy. But as they say, time heals all wound. I hope the best is yet to come for you.
  
  Haidee
23. The Asian Pear July 2nd, 2009 at 13:41
  
  I’m sorry things did not work out. But I am glad you’re not leaving (cause I would miss you so!). Please take all the time you need. We’ll be here supporting you when you get back. Cheering you on!
24. CanadianDebtGirl July 3rd, 2009 at 00:42
  
  I am happy you are keeping the blog. Much strength to you, but it seems you are already very strong and will use that to get through this. Take time, and we’ll still be here when you are ready.
25. Jen July 5th, 2009 at 19:16
  
  So sorry to hear the news. You have a wealth of support from your readers! We’ll be thinking of you in the coming weeks and looking forward to the evolution of your blog with this new era of your life! Keep smilin’
26. Andy Donovan July 9th, 2009 at 15:15
  
  Glad that you are continuing the Blog - I’ve truly enjoyed your postings and am sorry to hear about the rough patch you are experiencing - but as those above have stated who are much more eloquent than I - you have great support from your readers and this next leg on your “journey” will be bouyed with all of these positive thoughts.
  
  Looking forward to your return in August. All the best,
  
  Andy
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